Men Stop Holding Your Hand Out

I never understood why some men actually asked women for a (quote on quote) "LOAN" ( lol had to throw the emphasis on that). Where is your dignity? The confidence? The masculinity???

It all DISAPPEARED the very first time you ask a woman you barely knew for money.

I heard plenty, many, asked is I can loan them a little something something. lol Then in the same breath wonder and ask why I don't respect him.

LOL !!! Are you seriously asking me that dumb question?!?!

 So not only does this guy lack dignity and self-respect to make him-self look feminize (well I really want to say B-made) but now you look as if you lack common sense in my eyes also.

Getting back to the topic..

How in the world has things change so much in society? What happen to the times men treated women with respect? Or at the very least carry his-self with honor and respect?!

Especially when it comes to his very own expenses. The nerve to expect a woman you barely know to handle your business as if you're only a little boy and not a man. But at the same time they want women to treat them like men and not talk down to them.

 If I were a man I would feel very embarrassed, that I couldn't handle the responsibilities that I've occurred on my own account. This innocent woman wasn't even around to help get you in debt.

And well since there's no shame in their game, then he wouldn't mind being outted to everyone and anyone who knows this man. He wouldn't have a problem with people recognizing him for being a broke-down-no-dignity-having-can't-do-nothing-for-you-SCRUB. 

He should ware that Badge of Honor just as proudly as he honorably asked a woman (he barely knows) for money.

And you know there's nothing more unattractive to women than men not handling their responsibilities and own expenses. And for you guys thinking this is "gold-digging" thinking.

Umm i'll quote you w/ this .. from Kanye West "Now I ain't saying she a gold digger, But she ain't messing with no broke,N"eed I say more...

Take My Bank Card??? lol

I just had a memory today.. About the time a guy asked me for money. And it's not like I'm against lending money to people, especially to a man I have feelings for.

But thats beside the fact...Anyway

This guy asked me for some money. Although this guy just received a huge settlement through such and such..(not going through any details). But he received well over 100,000 that same year. So why the heck are you asking to borrow money from me?? And to make matters worse, he blew through 75% of that money in the matter of months.

Don't ask me how or why? Because I don't know lol. And I'm not sure I want to find out. (getting back to the topic)

Let us explore our options and reasons why he's asking me for money, and why he felt entitled to it (lol little boys, I tell you.. I wouldn't even consider that poor sap a "man")  Reason #:

1. Maybe he is on drugs. 
I've noticed his drastic weight change, his moody behaviors, and weird vibes coming from him. It could be stress also, but can't say.

2. He's trying to run game to see if he can get any money out of me. 
Well I'm no fool. I can tell when someone is trying use the gift of gab on me. So game doesn't work if I don't want any parts of it. 

3. He's the fool and lacks common sense.
Well it would explain him blowing through money on petty things. With NOTHING to show for it. Who blows through all their cash and doesn't have not one thing to show where their cash went to?? Unless drugs were involved, which brings me right back to reason # 1. SMDH

Anyway I can't say for sure why he would. But it sure wasn't attractive and at that moment all I could think about was how to get this poor sap at of my face and house!! 

I told him, I don't keep cash on me (which wasn't a lie). You would think he'd get the hint and take leave.

 No, he then turns around , sighs & blows hot air in my face, and says " alright I'll go to the atm for you and get the money myself". 

UMMM EXCUSE ME?!?!?! LOL!!! 

Ahh does it have stupid written across my head!!

 Like I'm going to trust a man, (whom isn't my bf to begin with and supposedly in a relationship, but felt he was entitled to claim me also, as if I didn't have a choice)  who blew through alot of money in a matter of months and has baby mama drama, with my bank card?? 

So umm how does he wants my "NO" , slow or fast, should I spell it out for him too?

Need I say anymore? That man is trapped in a little boy's mind frame. Very sad.