Secrets- We All Have Them

There is a saying "whats done in the dark, will eventually come to light". I really cant stand that saying. Not all secrets are revealed. Some secrets are better left that way! Everyone will have that one secret that they will take to their grave. And it just so happens to be the darkest one of all.

  So I think I just prove that saying wrong. And for all of those who still wish to live in denial and believe that saying to be true, well good luck. To each its own. I guess. 

  But why would a person share everything about themselves. What gives you the right to want to know everything about a person?!?! Especially when you yourself do not feel comfortable giving away all your secrets. What happen to privacy of others and respecting it as such?? Everyone has dirt, there is not one person who is perfect.

So my question is " Who gets to determine whats done in the dark, will eventually come to light". No One! 

And we really shouldn't worry about someone's dark past or secrets , the only exception I have to this is , of course if it effects you personally and directly. Other than that, we would be better off to mind our own business. But thats only in a perfect world, filled with perfect people right lol.

  I still rather go with the saying " what you don't know, wont hurt you!!"

Even though I'm not good at keeping secrets, well secrets of other people. I wont share mine so willingly. Its more of a reason for people to mind their own business. My opinion anyway.

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   So what do you think? Do you think people should be more open with their secrets? Or should people just learn how to mind their own business? 

Lets Talk About Love

I was wondering can one be "in love "with more than one person at the same time? Looking back on it, I really dont think you can. In my opinion you can love more than one person at the same time, but not in love with more than one person.
I personally think its a different kind of feeling of "loving" and being "in love".


I have in the past, liked and had feelings for different guys at the same time. Confuse it with being in love (we were all young once).


But now I realized I wasn't really in love with them because I didnt fully accept them and lost interest just as quickly. But I'm also an Aries too( yea I know, yikes!!lol)

But then its like who can really say that one cant be in love with more than one person? Maybe you have, or even me. Love is so confusing (shaking my head)

You have the:

• "ideal love",
• "practical love",
• "brotherly love",
• "friendship love",
• "perfect love", 
• "passionate love", 
• "mellow love"

And I can go on and on with the different types of love. You wonder how one even came of with the definition of what love is, and how to describe it.

But because in reality people do develop feelings for more than one person, how do you condition yourself to follow society's rules regarding mono relationships?


Should people be more accepting of open relationship, or should you just learn to discipline yourself?
(I'm not saying cheating is ok because its a form of deception. And any kind of deception is wrong.)
Im talking about honesty and having open relationships where both parties know where they stand and who they're with.

But like the saying goes, you cant help who you fall for.

The Other Woman- Does He Really Love You

I came across a blog post on the topic "Can a Man Ever Love the Other Woman? (Mistress Distress)"
which I thought was a good question. In my opinion this can be a yes or no. Depending on your situation, the people involved, and timing.

Do I think its possible to love 2 women at the same time? Of course ..BUT I don't think it's possible to be IN love with more than one woman at the same time.

So how does the other woman know if he really loves her? Well thats simple.

He'll leave the relationship he's already in for the relationship he really wants to persue. Any excuses not to turn your mistress status into something more stable and secure is a sign of him loving himself more than the 2 women caught up in this mess. (the 2 women I'm referring to is the wife/gf and the mistress)        

But Karma is a well you know. 

I'm not going to quote the saying "the same way you got him, will be the same way you lose him" because thats not always the case. But you will reap what you sow, so just be prepare to deal with any misfortunes that may come out of this situation.