Men Stop Holding Your Hand Out

I never understood why some men actually asked women for a (quote on quote) "LOAN" ( lol had to throw the emphasis on that). Where is your dignity? The confidence? The masculinity???

It all DISAPPEARED the very first time you ask a woman you barely knew for money.

I heard plenty, many, asked is I can loan them a little something something. lol Then in the same breath wonder and ask why I don't respect him.

LOL !!! Are you seriously asking me that dumb question?!?!

 So not only does this guy lack dignity and self-respect to make him-self look feminize (well I really want to say B-made) but now you look as if you lack common sense in my eyes also.

Getting back to the topic..

How in the world has things change so much in society? What happen to the times men treated women with respect? Or at the very least carry his-self with honor and respect?!

Especially when it comes to his very own expenses. The nerve to expect a woman you barely know to handle your business as if you're only a little boy and not a man. But at the same time they want women to treat them like men and not talk down to them.

 If I were a man I would feel very embarrassed, that I couldn't handle the responsibilities that I've occurred on my own account. This innocent woman wasn't even around to help get you in debt.

And well since there's no shame in their game, then he wouldn't mind being outted to everyone and anyone who knows this man. He wouldn't have a problem with people recognizing him for being a broke-down-no-dignity-having-can't-do-nothing-for-you-SCRUB. 

He should ware that Badge of Honor just as proudly as he honorably asked a woman (he barely knows) for money.

And you know there's nothing more unattractive to women than men not handling their responsibilities and own expenses. And for you guys thinking this is "gold-digging" thinking.

Umm i'll quote you w/ this .. from Kanye West "Now I ain't saying she a gold digger, But she ain't messing with no broke,N"eed I say more...

Secrets- We All Have Them

There is a saying "whats done in the dark, will eventually come to light". I really cant stand that saying. Not all secrets are revealed. Some secrets are better left that way! Everyone will have that one secret that they will take to their grave. And it just so happens to be the darkest one of all.

  So I think I just prove that saying wrong. And for all of those who still wish to live in denial and believe that saying to be true, well good luck. To each its own. I guess. 

  But why would a person share everything about themselves. What gives you the right to want to know everything about a person?!?! Especially when you yourself do not feel comfortable giving away all your secrets. What happen to privacy of others and respecting it as such?? Everyone has dirt, there is not one person who is perfect.

So my question is " Who gets to determine whats done in the dark, will eventually come to light". No One! 

And we really shouldn't worry about someone's dark past or secrets , the only exception I have to this is , of course if it effects you personally and directly. Other than that, we would be better off to mind our own business. But thats only in a perfect world, filled with perfect people right lol.

  I still rather go with the saying " what you don't know, wont hurt you!!"

Even though I'm not good at keeping secrets, well secrets of other people. I wont share mine so willingly. Its more of a reason for people to mind their own business. My opinion anyway.

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   So what do you think? Do you think people should be more open with their secrets? Or should people just learn how to mind their own business? 

Lets Talk About Love

I was wondering can one be "in love "with more than one person at the same time? Looking back on it, I really dont think you can. In my opinion you can love more than one person at the same time, but not in love with more than one person.
I personally think its a different kind of feeling of "loving" and being "in love".


I have in the past, liked and had feelings for different guys at the same time. Confuse it with being in love (we were all young once).


But now I realized I wasn't really in love with them because I didnt fully accept them and lost interest just as quickly. But I'm also an Aries too( yea I know, yikes!!lol)

But then its like who can really say that one cant be in love with more than one person? Maybe you have, or even me. Love is so confusing (shaking my head)

You have the:

• "ideal love",
• "practical love",
• "brotherly love",
• "friendship love",
• "perfect love", 
• "passionate love", 
• "mellow love"

And I can go on and on with the different types of love. You wonder how one even came of with the definition of what love is, and how to describe it.

But because in reality people do develop feelings for more than one person, how do you condition yourself to follow society's rules regarding mono relationships?


Should people be more accepting of open relationship, or should you just learn to discipline yourself?
(I'm not saying cheating is ok because its a form of deception. And any kind of deception is wrong.)
Im talking about honesty and having open relationships where both parties know where they stand and who they're with.

But like the saying goes, you cant help who you fall for.